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Beautiful. All right, So the how to get unstuck, right? Let's let's maybe go back and forth in it. Share some of the tricks tips of some of our go to methods to get unstuck whenever we get into a project a tasks, anything where we feel stuck, anything that we're ever like. We're trying to accomplish something. We're trying to complete something. And in the middle of the beginning of just before the end, we feel stuck. For whatever reason, I'll give you, um, my first hip that comes to mind here, You know,

to me if it's something more complicated, if there's something that I've done for the very first time, So maybe part of me being stuck is that I just don't know how to do this, it doesn't feel like familiar territory. While I'm not 100% confidence that the way I'm approaching this is right and I'm just fucking around too much. But I have found all sometimes is that yeah, I want to do a little bit of online research and try to see if I can learn the basics and come together with a come up with a game plan of how to tackle this project of this task. But the other thing, if it's a really important one, is that I will reach out 2 to 3 people that I know awesome. They have done this type of thing before, many times successfully, and I'll just ask them for 10 minutes of their time. I'll tell them Hey, here's what I'm trying to do This is the project. This is the task.

This is the responsibility I have. This is the way I'm thinking about tackling it. Give me feet that give me an idea. What are some things you wish you know, what are some pitfalls to avoid and, you know, beyond the knowledge that I'm hearing from a being doing three calls each 10 minute with three friends of three people that I admire, that respect is the motivation. Inspiration gives me just talking. A bunch of smart people about the way they've done this before will put me in a much more excited. Much were inspired mood and it will raise my confidence level to go. You know what? Maybe have overthought this. Maybe this isn't that complicated. Or maybe, you know,

when I talked to somebody and tell them Hey, I started working on this project in the middle. I just got stuck. I can't find the motivation. I can't find the clarity. How do I get over this? Just talking it verbalizing and Externalizing it oftentimes can help me. This is not something I do all the time. But when it's a really important project or something, that's really impactful and I get stuck somewhere on reach out and ask for help and just talk to a few smart people about it and matter of 10 times will help.

Yeah, my number. One way to get unstuck is take a quick nap like a power now because I know that my thoughts really crystallized If I take a quick nap. Another thing is I go for a walk. Sometimes I'll just pace around my house. So I work from home quite a bit and I'll just pace around my house even sometimes even more effective than going outside for a walk. Part of it is the familiarity of my house. Like I could even tell you right now I have a carpet. I don't know how we got this carpet that has, like, a bunch of circles in it. She like around circles and different colors, and they overlap. And I can't tell you how many times I remember those circles Like right now, even the memory of those circles is coming back.

When I've tried

to solve the problem I have in my head, I'm walking around. I have a counter in the kitchen. Sometimes my family will see me just walking around the counter. And there's something about this repetition that just gets it going for me, you know? And it's almost like I'm repeating some thought in my head. I'm stuck on it. So by going in circles somewhere, I'm sort of like getting it out of my head and like doing something repetitive in the physical world. That's really helpful. So I do these really weird things, I would say seemingly weird things to get unstuck. I think I really like your idea about talking to someone on expert or someone I generally will, just like now these one or two people I'll call or just go talk to if I'm stuck. And those people are generally people who I feel very comfortable saying whatever to, and they're generally people who I have no friction with.

So even if it's someone I work with, it's someone who almost like I could say, whatever. They're not gonna judge it or it. If it's a friend, it's a friend. I mean, I think I think friends don't want anything from you, don't want anything from each other. You know, that's like the burger chain of that. And so I have some friends like that who, like, just tell me their deepest, darkest, like thoughts and issues and you know all that.

And when they're stuck, they'll definitely ping me, and I do the same with them. So you know, it's it's something where you are stuck and you probably don't have ah, a way out. But there's a lot of different methods you can use. One final one I'll share because we've been jamming on this is writing writings really helpful to me, and I love writing on my phone and so I'll just pick up my phone, open my notes after years ago. And that's been probably one of the easiest things I could do. That doesn't bother anyone else either.

I love it. Um, all right, so you know, I heard this. I heard this a long time ago on the 60 came from somebody that was talking about productivity. But he came much more from a clinical psychotherapy background, and he came up with this great metaphor that when you were stuck with something similar to like having per lap paralysis And when somebody has paralysis in some part of their body, let's say it's not so much that they're the neurons are not firing that, like all the entire nervous system in their arm is saying nothing or say pause. It's actually that it's firing. Stop, goat, Stop, go left, right, left,

right, left, right. So the neurons are firing on opposite ends all the time, which is what makes the arm not being able to move, for instance, Right, So and and he used that as a metaphor for when we're stuck is not so much that were just like pausing or stopping somewhere is that we're going back and forth between things. Right? That is, that creates the the sensation and the phenomenal feeling of being stuck and love that because that then leads to one of the tips that that that I've learned from him from that person that I heard this from, which is, you know, when you have a difficult time completing a task or getting unstuck from something, try to get into the flow and mode of getting things done. So you and he was even going so ridiculous of saying you could do the simplest things on Earth,

right? You could just even be like, Okay, right down. 10 past. Even if their bullshit tasks like your four books on your on your desk and you have a bookshelf. Putting the books in the bookshelf is one task and then, you know, whatever putting all the dirty laundry, you know, outside the room, into the laundry room, something It could be the smallest of things. Folding my T shirt, right? Just make a list of things and complete them.

I just and this could be maybe small a task. This is something I like to do sometimes just to ask myself what are some super small tasks that I could complete the first go. And how can I do that for, like, a 30 minute timeframe or so Zoraida? It needs around 30 minutes for me to really get into a state off, completing things into the zone of flow. And so if I go and I complete a task, complete the next test to complete the nexus, a building momentum, I'm getting into a flow. And then I'll re attack this big a task, a bigger project that I felt stuck in because oftentimes the sensation of the phenomenon of being stuck to me comes from I'm starting to work on this thing. And then I distract myself with something else and then with something else. And then I go back and forth. And then there's three options of how could finish this,

and I'm not sure my thinking about all three options. And then I get distracted again by something else. I'm just adding more more distractions and going more more directions, and that creates more tension in the body. So which is another tip that also one is get into a state of completing things, even if it's small offense before you re attack the bigger task. The other thing is physical sensations. Such a great way to reverse engineer this problem A lot of times from many people, when they get stuck, it comes with a physical sensation, the physical sensations, tension I It means you might start breathing less and more shallow. You might be tensing up your body, your muscles. Your posture might be changing. These are all things that are happening unconsciously.

But they're adding to that. If you're getting stuck in a task, I guarantee your posh is not gonna be great. You're grieving is not gonna be deep and in a good rhythm and healthy, like all the there's gonna be physical manifestations of that. So what you could do is reverse engineer that and go Wait, I'm stuck. This is what you I think that part of what walking around, for instance could do Maybe just take 10 super deep breaths, right? Walk around to get like your body in a better posture to get more oxygen to be outside. But you can. Sometimes it helps me sometimes just to do the 10 deep breath thing where I feel tense, tense, tense And then I realize that. And I recognize that tenseness and ago.

Okay, stand up. Take 10 super deep breasts, oxygen. Relax the body, Put your body in a better posture. Sit down, re attack this thing and

get on stuff. I really like that. And I like that it backs by someone who would know That's the important

piece. Yeah, all right. I think that's it from us for a couple of tips on how to get unstuck if you have some we always love to hear from them. Eight and child gmail dot com Stelea close dot com And it's heating said Make sure the good of brain doubt offense. Let's start a technical 20% off of the subscription of service we both love. And that helps us. Has helped me numerous times with no bullshit here to get unstuck like when I don't feel that productive, it's getting it's become a go to I just go to brand of the fan. Start playing a playlist within like, 10 15 minutes. It helps me get into zones. It's been super super useful with that. All right,