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not in a bad way. And I'm tweeting a little bit more than I was over the last few months. And the tweet said dare to be different and all that you do for your future happiness and Stelly. It must have, like, struck a nerve or did something because we're talking about it today. And Stelly suggested so Yeah, it's about being different and daring to be different. So how did you take it? What did you think?

Well, the first thing I thought was what prompted this. That's my like when I see a tweet of this nature, especially with somebody that I know like you, I'm like, huh? I'm curious. What typically I would assume it's a conversation that inspires this with you, but who knows? It could be a million different things, but the first thing that it made was made me go. Ha! This is interesting. I wonder there's a back story off. There's a thought or a conversation that made he eaten one a. Send this message out to people. What prompted this?

Yes. So there's no, like exciting story or conversation. So, you know, like some of the tweets definitely are part of a conversation. And I think this one was just like I was just I think I was just thinking about it and I was thinking about what? What makes people exceptional and what causes like them to achieve things basically. And I think one of the factors that if you start looking at ah, bunch of patterns of, like, people that have achieved exceptional stuff, whether in business or personally, is they were different. They were different, something was different. They did something different.

And in that process, you know, thinking about that I just I just came to this sort of thought, you know, and and I wanted a sort of inspired myself, but also others that, Hey, it's okay to be different. And I think it comes with happiness, too, because if you're not different, you're likely conforming Thio. Whatever you know, society's expectations are or your own expectations are based on society and other people of what you

should be. So one of the reasons that I love the street is in the details, right? And so let's break them down one by one because it's two statements basically right there. I mean, it's one statement, but it's like two sentences or is broken in two parts. The first one, the thing that I found interesting in my mind, the thing that stood out was the choice of the very first word which was dare right. You didn't say aim to be different or be different in all that. You do aim to be different. All that you do. You should be different in all that wasn't should it would. It wasn't, you know, try.

It wasn't, you know hope was there. And to me there's an important golden nugget of wisdom and that that being different, you know, takes daring. It takes courage. You know, it's not something that doesn't come without risk. And I don't think that people always understand this. So I don't think we intrinsically understand this. I think we all understand what we all get, that it's attractive to be unique and different. But I think the reason why so few of us maybe fully live the true unique self is because it's very risky to do so. And in the moment you don't know if it's gonna pay out and the risk could come in humiliation. The risk could come in failure. The risk could come in shame.

But you need to be to exert some level of courage to dare to be different. Did you think that, or did you just write it? And, you know, sometimes you can just, like, analyze things after the fact. But that kind of stood out to me. I love the that you use the word daring to be different versus aiming to be different, trying to be different or anything else.

Yeah, I think that's on purpose, and the reason I use that word on purpose is because I really feel like people just don't do this. They don't try to be different. They don't. They don't make an attempt, and and there is is the word. Because you're going different essentially means that you're going against something you're going against what's normal or what's expected. Different means different means. Like whatever your behavior is, your actions are your thought. Processes are whether you're writing something, you know, different and crazy or a different take. Like, for example, right now,

the coronavirus is going on. What if you had a different take on it and you just didn't want to write it because you know you're not. I don't know. You're not thinking about it like that. You're not. You're just like all these people are saying their opinion. I actually have a different opinion and you don't share it. So I think the word dare is important because it to be different. You have to dare to be different. And if you aren't able to do that, you know it's like a disservice to yourself and other people. I think that the bar is pretty high in terms of like it's being normal, like for the bar to normal is actually high. What I mean by that is like there's a lot of risk. When you're a lot less a lot, I would say more risks when you're what I'm trying to say is like Normal is normal.

Different is different. Impact the world most tend thio but differently about it. And, you know, you think people in their whole thing for a while was like think different things. And it's a way I'd say if I were talking Thio somebody and I thought they had to dio take on something like that.

Let's look at the second statement, which is with the second part of the tweet and then we'll wrap this up. So the second part of what you wrote was not you didn't right there to be different in all that you do for your happiness. You wrote for your future happiness again, my interpretation. I'm accused Thio here what you actually thought. But the reason I really like that and that stood out to me was that being different in the moment, oftentimes is not gonna pay immediate for short term

returns.

You're not gonna instantly know that you being your full self or your authentic self or you differentiate itself is good or will be rewarded or will feel satisfying when you do it. When you differentiate yourself. When you act differently, think differently. Speak differently from most in the moment, I think is where you carry most of the risk. But in the future is where all the reward lies off. Differentiating yourself, right? So So I I really liked that it wasn't just there to be different, all that you do for your happiness, but for your future happiness and my own to something. Why did you choose to To write for your future

happiness? Because I don't think being different will necessarily make you happy in the short run. E think it makes you happy in the long run, and the reason is you take so much effort. For most people, Thio share an opinion or thought or anything that they feel like is different from what other people are saying or doing right now. And when you do it, it might not feel great in the beginning, because you're you're risking something you're risking putting yourself apple so it's a dare, and I would say that it's really for your future happen. It's not necessarily your present happiness, because when when you propose something different or you are being different. It's very likely that there will be people who disagree, or there will be people who look at it. And, you know, you could imagine them thinking you're weird or thinking,

you know you are not conforming. And so there tends to be a reaction to that from other people, and that reaction can make you kind of not necessarily happiest early on in the process. But over time, like by being different and sharing your thoughts, that might be different. You tend, Teoh. You know, you tend to have this. You learn this ability to express yourself. And I think a lot of lot of human sort of interaction and life is really about being ableto express yourself. Feeling uncomfortable enough? Not just with others, but with yourself. And that ultimately leads Thio happiness because you're essentially not hiding behind everybody else.

I love it. All right. I think that we're gonna turn. We could turn this into a segment of like we will call this, uh, putting Heaton's tweets on a couch like put that tweet on. Yeah, like that. All right, so if you're following, if you if you're following heating good. If not, then that should be. The very next thing you do is open the Twitter app and go toe at H N shot and start following him. He's a phenomenal Twitter follow. And if he ever tweets anything that's super wise, insightful or puzzling to you just reply and CC at Stelly and you say at Stelly,

put this tweet on a couch. We'll make this make this a startup Chad episode. We will analyze the wisdom, the Golden Nuggets and the behind the scenes off Keaton's infamous tweets there to be different in all that you do for your future happiness. I love this one. I'm glad that we talk a little bit about it. This is it from us. For this episode, we will hear you way.