Even though it’s foolish for us to be afraid to admit that we need help from a loved one, we always feel embarrassed and uncomfortable when we ask for help. This is why we try to avoid asking for help as much as possible.
It’s the mistaken belief that our thoughts, feelings, and needs are obvious to other people. This isn’t true, but we believe it. Even the people closest to you often struggle to understand how they can support you.
There are four things to keep in mind. When you ask for help, be extremely specific about the help you want and why. The second point is avoid disclaimers, apologies, and bribes. The third is to not ask for help over email or text because it feels incredibly impersonal. The last point is when a person agrees to help you, follow up afterwards to show appreciation.
Yes, it is better than email or text requests. In person requests for help are 30 times more likely to get a “yes” than a request made by email. We tend to avoid asking for help in person because it feels awkward.
When helpers knows that their help had an impact on the person asking for help. If they don’t get in touch with the helper after you helped the person, the helper won't never know if you really got the help you wanted.