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How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps | Christina Wallace
Let's face it, online dating can suck. So many potential people, so much time wasted -- is it even worth it? Podcaster and entrepreneur Christina Wallace thinks so, if you do it right. In a funny, practical talk, Wallace shares how she used her MBA skill set to invent a "zero date" approach and get off swipe-based apps -- and how you can, too.
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On TED Talks Daily, Christina Wallace says online dating does one thing well: it broadens your pool of potential dates beyond your existing social and professional circles. She says it does not do the rest well. Wallace first tried it in 2001, her freshman year. At six feet tall, she left the campus scene after finding that the men's Division III basketball team averaged five foot eight, and went online instead. Early dating, she says, was close to the plot of You've Got Mail: long emails for weeks, then a meeting that often had no chemistry, and a return to the start. Many of those frustrations, she says, are still there.
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Literally everything else.
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For Christina Wallace, she says that the message should be written in complete sentences and good grammar, had to reference something in her online dating profile, and it had to avoid all sexual content.
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Christina invented the zero date. Meaning, she would have one drink for one hour, and with the goal of answering one question: would she like to have dinner with this person?
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It doesn’t have to suck. The point isn’t swiping, it’s finding your person. Don’t treat it like a game, and don’t treat it like a resume or review. Instead, use it to source and qualify leads, and then get offline as quickly as possible with a zero date.
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