How do parents learn to regulate their emotions ?
Acknowledge that no one is perfect and everyone is learning and growing. If there are particular places where a parent is losing their temper repeatedly, shine conscious awareness on those situations. Label emotions as this allows for more control over them.
What are priorities when setting boundaries with younger kids ?
It can be done without attacking them, without punishing them, and without "getting back at them" for something they have done wrong. Parents can provide guidance and let it stick without having to be less than loving.
What does coaching vs. punishing kids mean ?
Some parents are unable to get their child to do what they want without using force. Other parents do not want to be the parent that has to use force, so they may use bribes or rewards. All of these tactics presuppose that children are objects to be manipulated. Coaching can mean helping a child learn to handle their emotions effectively and also setting up an environment that sets children up for success and allows them to practice skills repeatedly.
How do children learn to manage their emotions ?
Emotion coaching. Parents tend to react to their child's emotions in an unhealthy way. Taking a deep breath, reassuring their child, and acknowledging a situation can encourage a child to consider their emotions and how to handle them effectively.
How do many adults approach emotions ?
Typically, humans are scared of emotions. Most of us were raised without an ability to befriend our emotions. Rather, they are seen as an unnecessary inconvenience. Ultimately, emotions are useful indicators of who we are and the world around us.
How do parents help with situations where a child places blame in a scenario where they are actually at fault ?
No shame, no blame. Help child understand responsibility and be very involved with helping them master situations. Create a household that preaches solutions and not blame.
What is the most common thing that goes wrong when families blend together ?
Often, parents allow the step-parent to do the disciplining for their step-children. There is not always trust between the two parties. Stepping out of the role of disciplinarian allows the step-parent to connect with the child in a warmer manner. Start with the relationship, not with the discipline.
How important is an evening routine and how does a parent build this for their kids?
It is very important as children find security in routine. They also learn best practices for living, such as brushing teeth and packing lunches. Additionally, it provides time for parents and children to reconnect after the day.
How much sleep should kids be getting ?
It depends on age. If a child wakes up on their own without an alarm clock, they are getting enough sleep. Parents should be cognizant of children who might be sensitive to light, though, and waking too early as a result. Crankiness is usually an indicator of this.