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The Kids Are Worth It

The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish

The Kids Are Worth It

Parenting expert and best selling author Barbara Coloroso shares her three foundational principles of child-rearing, how to get kids to be accountable for their actions, and what we can do as parents to raise confident, happy children. --- This interview is unlike any we’ve done so far on The Knowledge Project. We’re talking parenting with one of the…

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  1. How Do You Help Kids Own Their Decisions? at 9:43

    First, it is important to distinguish between choices and decisions. Full answer

  2. What Should a Child Learn Regarding Mistakes at 13:07

    Own it, fix it, learn from it, and move on. Full answer

  3. How Should Mischief Be Handled at 13:32

    Show the child what they have done wrong, give them ownership of the problem, and give them ways to solve it with their dignity intact. Full answer

  4. How Should Mayhem-type Behavior Be Handled at 13:40

    Utilize 3 "R's" of restorative practice: restitution, resolution, and reconciliation. Full answer

  5. How Should Parents Handle Conflict With Siblings at 23:38

    Conflict is inevitable, violence is not. A parent's job is to teach kids to handle conflict non-violently. Full answer

  6. How Can Situations That Are Mean and Cruel Be Dealt With at 34:59

    The target must be safe, a witness must be safe, and then the child doing the mean and cruel activity must be dealt with even if that means delayed justice. Full answer

  7. What Tools Can Be Provided to a Child That Is Being Called Names at 36:29

    They should learn to stand strong with a non-passive posture and assertively name the cruel behavior they were the recipient of. Full answer

  8. How Does Barbara Coloroso Get Children to Bed Without Threats? at 48:47

    On The Knowledge Project, Barbara Coloroso, author of Kids Are Worth It!, tells Shane Parrish that routines matter more than threats, and that by eight or ten… Full answer

  9. What Should a Parent Do When a Child Reports Bullying? at 54:21

    A parent should stop everything they are doing and ask the child to talk to them about it and understand what occurred. Full answer

  10. How Should Parents Provide Feedback for Children at 58:24

    Remember the 3 "Cs" of feedback: compliments, comments, and constructive criticism. Full answer

  11. What Would Age Appropriate Chores Look Like for Children at 1:16:37

    Parents should keep in mind that the goal is always to increase responsibility and decision-making and reduce limits and boundaries. Full answer

  12. How Can Parents Be Responsible With Children Regarding Social Media at 1:36:46

    Parents should teach kids 3 things. First, be digitally savvy (starting from age 5), be civil, be safe. Full answer

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