The Startup Chat with Steli and Hiten on Smash Notes

The Startup Chat with Steli and Hiten podcast.

December 31, 2019

Unfiltered insights and actionable advice straight from the trenches of startup and business life. The show hosts, Steli Efti and Hiten Shah, are both serial entrepreneurs who have founded multi-million dollar SaaS startups. Being busy CEOs of fast-growing companies, they know the value of your time and make sure you get the most out of each 22 minute episode. Tune in for new episodes every Tuesday and Friday.

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In this episode, Steli and Hiten talk about the art of confidence. Steli shares an event he observed in a coworking space, one day, that really frustrated him. It showed the importance of having confidence in one’s self.  Listen as Steli and Hiten share their thoughts about what it means and takes to be confident and how their own personal level of confidence has affected their life and business. Steli and Hiten also discuss the importance of knowing and accepting yourself as a means for boosting your confidence.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

00:05 – Today’s episode is about the art of confidence

01:05 – Give a rating, review in iTunes, and subscribe to the email list

01:38 – Steli shares what he has observed that led to today’s podcast

01:44 – Steli is still limited with his leg injury

01:55 – Steli was working at a coworking space in Palo Alto

02:17 – A group started a Skype call and the audio was insanely loud

03:00 – The group is a start-up and they were talking to an ex-investment banker, advising the group about how to raise money

03:32 – The guy was obnoxiously arrogant and wrong, and had an unreasonably high demand for his payment

04:05 – Steli was conflicted by whether he should’ve talked to the group or not

04:37 – Steli is most bothered by people taking advantage of founders

05:01 – The guy on the phone was great at communicating his importance while the group lacked confidence

05:47 – Founders can lack confidence and Steli wants to teach founders this skill, so they won’t be taken advantage of

06:26 – People confuse confidence with charisma

06:36 – Hiten explains the “push and pull” factors

06:57 – When you are pulling people to you, in a lot of ways, you are also pushing something out

07:18 – How confident are you in yourself?

07:59 – You cannot be confident and pull people in unless you are really good with yourself and believe in yourself

08:30 – People can be charismatic, but not confident

08:57 – In Greek, charisma means “having a gift”

09:19 – For Steli, confidence comes from self-belief

09:37 – Being dominant does not mean confidence

10:19 – True confidence comes from having both success and failure

11:12 – Those who experience both success and failure have deeply rooted, calm confidence

11:50 – Steli thinks Hiten is an extremely confident person

12:33 – Hiten shares how he has struggled with his confidence level

12:46 – “You have to work with yourself everyday”

12:58 – Hiten wanted to eat something, but the restaurant did not have it

13:24 – Hiten sat with it for 10 minutes and accepted it

13:58 – Managing your emotions everyday helps make you have confidence in yourself

14:45 – “Watch your emotions, watch your reactions”

15:37 – Those who have failures have pushed themselves out of their comfort zones

16:14 – Steli shares how to develop confidence: you have to have self-awareness and self-acceptance

17:42 – Having self-awareness and self-acceptance can help you grow and find your value

17:59 – Tweet your thoughts with Steli and Hiten

3 Key Points:

Confidence comes from having both success and failures.

Self-confidence can be acquired by working with yourself everyday.

Self-awareness and self-acceptance are key factors in having confidence and finding your value.


Steli Efti: Hey, everybody. This is Steli Efti.



Hiten Shah: And this is Hiten Shah.



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