249: How To Manage Your Emotions During The Startup Rollercoaster
In today’s episode, Steli and Hiten talk about ways you can manage your emotions in a startup. Startups are said to be emotional rollercoasters, but how do we actually deal with these emotions that we go through? Listen as Steli and Hiten explain how you can control your emotions, tips on how to avoid getting angry, and why awareness is the first step to understanding your emotions.
Time Stamped Show Notes:
00:03 – Today’s topic is about managing your emotions in a startup
00:35 – A startup is an emotional rollercoaster
01:26 – One of the most intense emotions an entrepreneur experiences in a startup is fear
01:45 – Combat fear by not having fear
02:03 – Will Smith says to have fear of fear
02:20 – Fear is irrational: you focus on things you can’t control
02:56 – Deal with fear by thinking through it
04:20 – Play it through all the way
04:53 – Anger is a negative, but empowering emotion
05:18 – Hiten says to not be pissed off and angry
05:52 – Hangry is the number cause of being angry – don’t take too much coffee without food
06:18 – “Most of the time, your emotions are coming from the same place”
06:35 – Dig deep on what triggers your emotions
07:12 – Think through your emotions and identify them, when they are triggered, and how you can recognize them
07:24 – Write down what makes you angry
07:49 – Don’t judge yourself for feeling what you feel
08:00 – Never write an email or text in anger
08:20 – Find a way to calm down
08:53 – Start being self-aware about the emotional state that you’re in
09:48 – Anger builds up before it explodes
10:26 – Find a productive vessel to put your energy into when you’re angry
11:50 – Confusion is a common and less intense emotion
12:10 – Hiten reminds himself to focus on the big, important things to avoid confusion
12:50 – Don’t get caught up n small things that would not matter in the long run
13:42 – Focus and do the things you CAN control
14:56 – Steli shares about an overwhelming experience he had yesterday
15:32 – Identify what is really going on
16:07 – Deal with one thing at a time – prioritize
16:56 – Being present in the moment is what eliminates overwhelm
17:33 – Dealing with cynical emotions
18:15 – “Get out of your head and go for a walk”
18:50 – Meditate or do something that takes your mind off of the issue
19:13 – Talk to people that make you happy
20:31 – Deal with other people’s emotions the same way you deal with yours
21:36 – Emotional management always starts with awareness
21:55 – We want to hear your opinion on this topic! Email Steli or Hiten
3 Key Points:
Deal with your emotions by thinking through it, not by reacting to it.
Analyze where you feel triggered and find out why you feel that way – sometimes the cause comes from childhood emotions and memories.
Deal with other people’s emotions the way you deal with yours.
Hey everybody, this is Steli Efti.
And this is Hiten Shah, and today on the startup chat, we're gonna talk about how to manage your emotions in a startup.
Yeah, we all know that the rollercoaster example has been used many, many times. The emotional rollercoaster of starting a startup. It's a funny image and it's very truthful for those that hear it. It does mimic the highs and lows and the intensities of a startup from an emotional point of view, but it's very rarely that we talk about how to deal with that. And how to manage your own emotions. So I thought that it would be a fun episode for us to just pick a bunch of challenging emotions that you're probably gonna have to face and states of mind that you're gonna have to face as you'r...