Today on The Startup Chat, Steli and Hiten talk about a very interesting topic, and that is “what people really think about you”.
As human beings, it’s natural for us to be curious about other people’s opinion about us, and knowing this can be quite beneficial to us, especially in a working environment. One way you can find out this information is by actually asking for feedback from others. However, this can be very challenging for some of us.
In this episode, Steli and Hiten talk about self-awareness and the importance of feedback and why it’s important to provide it and seek it and much more.
Time Stamped Show Notes:
00:28 Steli talks about why he chose today’s topic.
04:37 Hiten shares an experience he had with a co-founder and his opinions on the subject.
07:07 Steli points out that people who tend to have strong personality tend to be the sweetest people.
08:46 Steli give an example of how our lives can be impacted by people’s opinions of us.
11:35 How to find a balance between caring and not caring what people think about you.
12:22 How you can get feedback about yourself.
13:12 Why being obsessed with people’s opinion is not a good thing.
14:37 One of the reasons people might not give you their honest opinions about you.
14:50 Why listening to people's opinion is sometimes necessary.
15:26 Ask them because you want to understand their perception of yourself.
The way people perceive us impacts our life whether we know it or not.
People tend to assume that everyone thinks like they do.
It’s unhealthy to imagine a perception of yourself that’s not true.
Steli Efti: Hey everybody, this is Steli Efti.
Hiten Shah: And this is Hiten Shah, and on today's episode of the Startup Chat, we're going to talk about this kind of loose topic, that I'm sure we'll get into an interesting discussion, but it's something we all deal with, which is what people really think about you. And I'm going to call you out Steli first by asking you why you picked this topic for today because you picked it.
Steli Efti: Yep.
Hiten Shah: I just get to announce it, I guess.
Steli Efti: Yes. So, here's the background story. A good friend of mine, he recently had this experience where he was given some very kind of honest and harsh feedback about himself. So, he joined a startup with a bunch of other friends of mine that he was friendly with before and then he decided they recruited him and they decided to join them and work with them. And at some point, they had like a feedback round and they told him that at times, he can be very very harsh and very hard to people. And that to him, was like an earth-shattering ... At first, he didn't believe it. All right, so at first he was like, "You know, I've lived my entire life. I've gathered a lifetime of perception of who I am or what people think of me." And this thing, apparently, that him very hard harsh and hard on people, that was something that was completely outside his worldview about himself, and everything that he let through his filter. So, he went to his roommate and one of these best friends and told them about the feedback that he just got and was like, "Is this really true?" And his roommate friend was like, "Abso-fucking-lutely. Are you crazy? Of course, this is true." And that blew his mind. And he was talking to me just recently about this, was telling me he was like, "This is like ... This is really fucking with my self-perception, like and my self-awareness and my like thinking maybe I don't know who I am and what people really think about me because this is something I was completely unaware of." And we were talking about this a little bit and I told him, "Listen.