Dax Shepard

Malcolm Gladwell's book says he got Life magazine and read it. In the interview he said the magazine was Time.

After Malcolm Gladwell leaves, Dax Shepard and Monica Padman catch the mismatch. The book says Life. On the interview Malcolm Gladwell said Time. They call the slip comforting because Malcolm Gladwell's recall usually feels daunting. Time and Life are not the same magazine. The same person created both, and the same company published both. They offer Time Warner, then say probably. Time is a news magazine. Life is a general interest photojournalism magazine. They remember Life from the book and heard Time in the interview. They bet it was Life, and they are recording a fact check.

Dax Shepard says you should not test drive a Ferrari you cannot buy. Personal decency, he says, means you should not make salespeople spend their limited eight hours trying to sell a car to someone who cannot buy it.

When Dax Shepard was 18, he had no money and went to a Ferrari dealership. He says he would be a shithead to waste a salesman's hour and to take on the liability of driving an expensive car he could not replace if he smashed it on the ride, only to experience a Ferrari for a half hour. He asks where his personal responsibility is if he feels entitled to drive a Ferrari only because he wants to. A dealer will let him test drive now, he says, because he can buy one and can replac

Dax Shepard and Monica Padman turn to a Kelly Clarkson story that feels light because the world is so depressing right now. The algorithm needs a cleanse. Geopolitics and politics are a mess. Inflation is through the goddamn roof. Everything is bad. Personal stories feel heavy on the heart, including a horrible story about a man who fell off a roller coaster and was a dad.

Dax Shepard and Monica Padman have not both watched the video. The one who has been with Kelly Clarkson knows the details. The other saw there was a video, did not have time to watch it, and has only heard about what happened. That side still calls the Kelly Clarkson story light and inconsequential. The reply is that it c

Dax Shepard was embarrassed to be nominated for a Golden Globe while Malcolm Gladwell was left out. He says he has said so publicly and to Malcolm Gladwell's face, and he used every interview to call the nomination ridiculous.

Dax Shepard thinks only shows that aired every week were nominated. He does not think limited series were included. He says otherwise Malcolm Gladwell would have won and swept it. Malcolm Gladwell tells him there is no reason to diminish his own considerable contributions to society in order to uplift Malcolm Gladwell.

They still went. Talk of what Dax Shepard wore jumps from an Italian dinner jacket and shorts to a full suit and nice shoes. He says he wears a tux pr

Malcolm Gladwell says the Sir John Knight gun case used to read the Second Amendment is completely made up. The version courts like says Sir John Knight took guns to a church, raised hell, was tried, and was found innocent. Gladwell treats the acquittal as real. What the research overturns is the church story: Knight did not bring his guns into the church.

Courts want the historical antecedents of the Second Amendment, because the founders' thinking is supposed to explain the sentence they drafted. Sir John Knight is offered as a 17th century English case in which a man accused of carrying guns illegally was acquitted, and as proof of a rich history of defending gun rights. The citation run

Malcolm Gladwell says New York State's suicide rate has historically been half the national average because a handgun law kept for a hundred years made a handgun hard to get. Most people who try to kill themselves would take a second chance if they survived.

The law followed a famous murder in downtown Manhattan, where a prominent writer was killed by a crazed fan. The outrage was enough that New York kept the rule for a hundred years. Gladwell says the law did not really affect the homicide rate, because most homicides use illegal guns smuggled in from out of state. It did affect suicide. He calls an attempt an expressive act of self-violence: a handgun nearby makes death likely, and witho

Dax Shepard says liberals and conservatives split on guns for the same reason: fear. One side fears the other person who has the gun. The other side is scared enough to want the gun.

A friend from the South gave him that framing, and Dax says it broke his own polarization. In one election it hit him that people are not voting for what they want. They vote to address what terrifies them. For liberals, that includes global warming. Conservatives are afraid of other things. Seeing both groups as afraid made him much more compassionate toward people he disagrees with, because he sees they are afraid, 100 percent.

He says confrontation and anger are the worst strategy for dealing with someone w

Malcolm Gladwell says Baltimore stops the next killing by talking a likely avenger down before he acts. Much of homicide, he says, is young men settling beefs with violence, so prevention means intervening and training them to resolve conflicts in a more peaceable way. The visits work. They involve no arrests, no action on guns, no National Guard, and no show of force.

He describes a Chicago program in his book that teaches conflict resolution to teenage boys for a year-long class. Studies showed dramatic decreases down the line. Baltimore, which has had a dramatic decline in homicides, took the idea further. Each week, 25 people sit with a slide deck of every crime from the week. In the ex

Malcolm Gladwell says the Second Amendment debate in Virginia was about slave patrols. At the Richmond ratifying convention, Virginians argued about militias the whole time. They feared the federal government would take state militias away, and when they talked about militias they meant slave patrols: armed white men.

The Constitution was proposed in the 1780s, and all the states had to ratify it. Virginia was the most important state. Gladwell says the American Union was not happening unless Virginia joined, which is why George Washington had to be president and why leaders constantly appeased Virginia. Perfect transcripts show the Richmond debate stayed on militias. In many parts of Virgi

Malcolm Gladwell opens the audiobook with Drew Holcomb singing Troubles because a mass shooting is one of the rare moments when the reality of gun violence in the country hits home to the majority of people. Gladwell says in the book that mass shootings are a tiny part of the problem, and he still wanted the song for that reason.

Drew Holcomb is a singer in Nashville and a friend of Gladwell, and Holcomb is adopted. Holcomb had read the book. Gladwell likes music in audiobooks and asked Holcomb for any music that would work. Holcomb sent a song written one morning after driving kids to school and hearing about a mass shooting at a school. Gladwell calls Troubles haunting and beautiful, and

Malcolm Gladwell says crime and violence are two completely separate things. They involve different people, and they have different roots, different causes, and different cures. America is not a high crime society. By the standards of the Western world, America is a medium to low crime place. What sets America apart is violence.

Robbery, car theft, and a house broken into are the crimes he means. A car is far more likely to be stolen or broken into in Montreal than in New York City, and the gap is not even close. A home is much more likely to be broken into in Paris or London than in Chicago.

When politicians say they are going to get tough on crime, Gladwell says the question is what they

Malcolm Gladwell learned about American crime from Time magazine, in a childhood with no crime of his own. He grew up in rural Ontario with no television and no newspaper. Books and Time were what came into the house.

Time arrived every week, and as a kid he read it from beginning to end. Around eight, in rural Ontario, the magazine was his picture of a country he had never visited, only 100 miles away. He grew obsessed with America and later read enormous amounts on American politics. The articles were full of people getting shot and murdered. His town had one police officer, the husband of his mother's friend, who would stop kids and say he would tell their parents. Gladwell had never see

Over half the class or 50 to 60 percent deals with imposter syndrome. Some people who start with the fear of being less smart than everyone end up having a unique advantage. Once they prove to themselves they can hang, it builds a lot of confidence that can also build real momentum over time. People used to being the smartest person in the room face an identity crisis when surrounded by equals.

Men fear that telling a female partner about personal insecurities will reduce attraction. Instead the female partner will view the man as a stud after having been with a million men too cowardly to tell. Revealing personal insecurities serves as a counterintuitive hack.

Randomized controlled and natural experiments show what happens when phones are removed from schools. Boys get bullied less. Girls get better grades and have better mental health. Removing phones from schools can make a dent in solving the problem of loneliness.

Accept emotions and contain behavior. Joe Dumars sat down with Rasheed Wallace right at the airport and said I understand you are going to lose your cool and have meltdowns but we cannot have any technical fouls in the fourth quarter. Joe Dumars was accepting his emotions and containing his behavior.

Some penguins collect and present smooth shiny stones to show their suitability as a mate during courting rituals. Pebbling in digital form means sending memes, reels, or articles to friends that remind the sender of the recipient. Every pebble sent serves as a gesture of care. Research shows sending little pebbles acts as a memory flex. Relationships can be kept up over distances and decades through pebbles sent back and forth.

People often confuse rituals with the type of relationship in romantic connections. Expressing emotional intimacy counts as a companion ritual because most people only express emotional intimacy to somebody with very strong feelings. When a person comfortable with vulnerability shares emotional intimacy casually, partners assume a serious companion relationship. One of the most heartbreaking experiences involved an ex-girlfriend saying a connection never really got better.

Paul Eastwick and Eli Finkel have done studies where people fill out a questionnaire before a speed dating event. Machine learning algorithms find zero predictive utility from anything that people say about themselves or what people claim to want in other people. Compatibility develops when people spend time together instead of matching beforehand.

Vibing with too many people serves as a red flag for people pleasing and approval seeking. A long standing need to get along with everyone arose from a fear of getting thrown out of the group. The version of the person who acted that way was not always being honest or truthful. Such behavior can trigger insecurity in others who then question if interactions were sincere.