Kids are just like adults, but since they cannot do or understand a lot of things in the world, they come with constraints. Imagine yourself in your kids' shoes, and you'd realize how disempowering and oppressive it is to be a child. Someone is always telling you what to do, and how to do it.
It’s hard to admit and even harder to practice, but as parents we have to be a lot more relaxed around our children, and we have to be more prepared. Our patience is always tested. Nevertheless, giving kids freedom to decide on their own is the best thing we can do, both for them and for ourselves.