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Did Harville Hendrix Almost Get Divorced?

Harville Hendrix says he and his partner, Helen LaKelly Hunt, had been married 44 years, and they nearly ended it. Across the marriage they considered divorce several times, seriously at least twice, and in 1999 they started the legal process and were on the way to divorce court.

In 1999, a million couples applied for and got divorces. What set them apart was that they were among the most visible couples therapists in the world. For the ten years from 1988 to 1999, Oprah Winfrey featured their book, Getting the Love You Want, and their work on her show at least once a year, for an audience of 10 million. Millions of couples were using their process while the marriage was falling apart. They withdrew from public commitments because the public work and the private life no longer matched. Oprah told Hendrix to call her when they worked it out. They then went to a therapist in New York City they considered the best couples therapist there.

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