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How Should Parents Handle Conflict With Siblings

Conflict is inevitable, violence is not. A parent's job is to teach kids to handle conflict non-violently. Help kids come up with a peaceful plan to resolve the conflict.

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The Kids Are Worth It ·

The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish

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  1. How Do You Help Kids Own Their Decisions?First, it is important to distinguish between choices and decisions.
  2. What Should a Child Learn Regarding MistakesOwn it, fix it, learn from it, and move on.
  3. How Should Mischief Be HandledShow the child what they have done wrong, give them ownership of the problem, and give them ways to solve it with their dignity intact.
  4. How Should Mayhem-type Behavior Be HandledUtilize 3 "R's" of restorative practice: restitution, resolution, and reconciliation.
  5. How Can Situations That Are Mean and Cruel Be Dealt WithThe target must be safe, a witness must be safe, and then the child doing the mean and cruel activity must be dealt with even if that means delayed justice.
  6. What Tools Can Be Provided to a Child That Is Being Called NamesThey should learn to stand strong with a non-passive posture and assertively name the cruel behavior they were the recipient of.
  7. How Does Barbara Coloroso Get Children to Bed Without Threats?On The Knowledge Project, Barbara Coloroso, author of Kids Are Worth It!, tells Shane Parrish that routines matter more than threats, and that by eight or ten…
  8. What Should a Parent Do When a Child Reports Bullying?A parent should stop everything they are doing and ask the child to talk to them about it and understand what occurred.
  9. How Should Parents Provide Feedback for ChildrenRemember the 3 "Cs" of feedback: compliments, comments, and constructive criticism.
  10. What Would Age Appropriate Chores Look Like for ChildrenParents should keep in mind that the goal is always to increase responsibility and decision-making and reduce limits and boundaries.
  11. How Can Parents Be Responsible With Children Regarding Social MediaParents should teach kids 3 things. First, be digitally savvy (starting from age 5), be civil, be safe.

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