Why Did Lewis Howes Start a Relationship in Therapy?

Lewis Howes started the relationship in therapy because expecting a partner to understand his entire history, every gesture, every word, and every future dream is not possible. He would not commit exclusively unless the relationship started in therapy. The sessions created structure around fears, concerns, wants, and desires, and the two of them could come together and align.

He had an expectation to be single, then kept saying the things he knew were true and the things most people do not want to hear. The more he did that, the more accepting she was, and he said she was going to be the one. After a few months of dating and hanging out, he said he was not willing to get exclusively committed unless they started in therapy. He believed he was finally going to push her away. He waited for her to call him crazy, call it weird, and say it was too much work because the relationship was just starting. She said it sounded exciting. What followed was a container of communication that felt safe and clear, instead of an expectation that she would magically understand his whole life.