How Do You Stop Feeling Behind Successful People?

Lewis Howes says looking at a successful person's life at the same stage stops the feeling of being behind and turns the gap into learning. Most of the time that person was also struggling, scared, insecure, and uncertain. When the work was an online business or platform, the numbers were small too.

He tells people to study someone they do not like, someone they criticize all the time or talk about behind their back, who posts online, is really successful, and has done the career they want. At 25 or at 30, read the old interviews from that time, scroll back to the first social posts and the first videos from five, 10, or 15 years ago, or ask the person directly. Compare year one with year one right now, or year three with year three. Lewis Howes says the person might have been a little farther ahead or a little less far along. If the person really was further ahead at the same point, the gap shows what the person did differently.

Either way, people stop feeling behind and start learning. Lewis Howes says everything in the comparison is feedback and information. The comparison does not mean you were right or wrong, and it does not mean you were good or bad. He says the first two expectations are the ones you put on your own life.