Why Did Lewis Howes Meet His Wife Later?

Lewis Howes met his wife later because he was not emotionally ready 10 years earlier. The love of his life showed up when he stopped trying to force it. She wishes they had met 10 years sooner, before other relationships, so they would have had more fun and been farther along.

They both salsa danced at the same clubs in LA 10 years ago and 15 years ago, and she wonders whether they ever ran into each other. Lewis Howes told her he would not have been ready emotionally and probably would have messed it up even if he had seen her. A mentor told him money comes when you are ready for it, and Lewis Howes believes love comes the same way. He says an earlier relationship might bring good times and also more struggle than necessary if the lessons about yourself are still unlearned, or it might be a learning experience that causes more challenges. He says there is no right or wrong.

He met her at the exact time he felt ready to take on the relationship in a healthy way, communicate, and create boundaries instead of giving in constantly the way he did in previous relationships. Communicating and creating boundaries was something he needed to learn in order to be ready for the relationship in the season of life when they met.