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What Are Dr. Laura Markham's Three Keys to Parenting?
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Shane Parrish opens The Knowledge Project interview by asking Dr. Laura Markham about the claim in her work. The three keys are to regulate your own emotions, reconnect with your kids, and coach instead of punishing. She starts with self-regulation. What matters most, she says, is who the parent is, not a list of tricks. Babies are born with unfinished emotional brains, and repeated time with a parent shapes them. If a parent can notice anger or anxiety and calm down, the child learns that a fight about getting out of the bath is not an emergency, and copies the calming. She calls that ability the factor with the greatest effect on who the child becomes.
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