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Why Is Delegating to AI Different From Handing Work to a Person?

Molly Graham says handing work to a person and handing work to AI are different jobs. With a person, the best move is to fully hand over work you have been building and then trust that the future of it belongs to them. Her image is to chuck the pieces at them and run. The instinct is to stay so they build it exactly as you did. Letting go of that control brings fear and a lot of freedom.

A machine does not take the oversight with it. Delegating to AI is closer to assigning work on a team while you still own the final product. The tools can do parts of the job, and the mental tax stays with you. The cost of oversight is not zero, so there is less room to move on to new things. She wonders whether suddenly overseeing machines, and maybe people too, is part of why the load feels heavier.

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