Molly Graham
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How Should Leaders Talk About Grief at Work?
Molly Graham says leaders should say the grief out loud. Individual contributors have a clearer job in this moment: they are more productive, and they have more room to build. Managers are the ones who cannot tell what the team should look like, what matters, or what to say. A leader is a role model. How they use AI trickles down, and so does how they sit with the change.
What she wants is more managers talking about grief, about the emotions that come with change, and about how hard it is. Naming what a fast change does to people makes the feeling easier. Most of what her writing on giving work away did was tell people that others have felt the same thing, and that the feeling means the ch
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Why Throw a Funeral for Work You Loved?
Molly Graham says sometimes you need to throw a funeral for work you loved, because the funeral is there for a reason. Take a minute to mourn what was, then ask what you could love that way again, and what you could be extraordinary at, if the machines are doing the old task. Both can be true at once. You can be sad about what you lost, and there can be opportunity in what is coming. The miss is skipping the grief and telling people only to get excited about the future.
She ties that minute of mourning back to giving work away. Be comfortable with the job changing, and expect that it will almost surely be okay. Growth comes from trying and from letting go. The funeral makes room for that. I
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Why Is Burnout Rising in Tech Right Now?
Lenny Rachitsky says 44% of people in his tech survey felt burned out in 2025, and 55% said they feel burned out this year. He calls that a huge jump. The picture he describes is being asked to do more, with AI already on the desk, while other teams look faster and the company talks as if it will go out of business if it does not move.
Molly Graham reads the jump as exhaustion. Emotions are tiring, and so is trying to understand a rate of change that covers the tools and the story about the tools. One month one thing matters, and the next month it is something else. A friend at OpenAI told her it took six months to go from using AI everywhere to asking whether it was making a difference, be
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Why Do People Feel Lonely When AI Replaces the Team?
Molly Graham says the loneliness shows up when the teammates go away and the day is spent with machines. Lenny Rachitsky describes an engineering leader who said teams used to be five or ten engineers working together, and now the teams are smaller and the work is talking to agents. It is not the same job.
A company can strip out the humans, pick up productivity, and still end up with sad people, and sad people do not do their best work. Molly reads the same pattern in survey data that small teams and smaller companies are happier than people at the bigger companies. At those bigger companies, management layers come out and the pressure is productivity, cost, and how efficient the machines
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What Is Glue Club for Lonely Leaders?
Molly Graham gets a lot of wisdom and a lot of support for conversations about loneliness from the community at Glue Club. A leader who feels lonely and a little unsupported should find a community, Glue Club or another one, and talk there. Leaning on each other is how people learn what is real and what is not, and what is valuable and what is not.
Much of the work in Glue Club is asking whether anybody else is seeing the same thing, and that check is really valuable. The same conversation can happen in Lenny land. The point is to get out and talk about what is real and what is not instead of staying in a sad, lonely hole.
Plenty of space exists right now for what to do, which skills to ge
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Should I Treat AI Like an Intern?
Lenny Rachitsky says the core test is to treat AI like an intern: decide what a person would give an intern and what they would never give them. AI is much more like an intern than a super intelligent being. Be deliberate about what gets handed over. Skip the work AI will do a terrible job at, and keep the work someone loves and does not want taken away. Do not give everything to AI. Avoid brain rot and stop over-relying on AI.
So far there are more engineers, and so far the change is going well. Give away your Legos, but stay discerning about what should stay human and what humans are here for. He allows that there may be some things people should never give away, and the choice is genuine
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What Does It Feel Like Inside a Rapidly Growing Company?
Molly Graham says being inside a rapidly growing company feels like being inside a tornado. The work is so absorbing that things fly at you all the time and everything keeps changing. It is easy in that state to lose the forest for the trees, get bogged down, obsess about a person or a piece of the work, or feel undervalued.
In the Lego speeches, the advice is to zoom out and choose the story worth telling on the other side. A title matters less than having been there and having helped build the company. The picture is a giant Lego sculpture that everyone pretends is a tiger. People build the feet, help build the face, rebuild the butt three times, and then realize it was a whole zoo. Rapid
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What Increases Happiness at Work the Most?
Lenny Rachitsky says the strongest lever for happiness at work is the manager. A manager is the one thing a company can actually change to increase people's happiness at work right now, and most people's managers are not good. Taking care of managers is where the leverage sits, while the wider AI shift is much harder to do much about.
Molly Graham calls the trend inside bigger companies to cut whole management layers a huge mistake that will hurt over the long term. There is no sign that management matters less. If anything, management matters more. The efficiency and the cost savings are real, and they come with costs nobody can predict. A great manager makes people feel seen and supported
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Why Do Some AI Products Disappear Within a Year?
Molly Graham says some of what gets shipped now may last six or twelve months and then disappear or stop mattering. She asks if that is the slop version of a startup: many companies putting things into the world that do not endure. The path she wants is to pioneer the thing that is still around in five years, that matters, and that does more than exist.
Typing something into existence is easy now, so the next question is whether it is good. Ambition means building something phenomenal that will last. Making more stuff is a different target. The split is between the moment of having built a thing and asking what is actually good and what is worth other people's time.
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Why Did People Feel Too Late on AI?
Molly Graham says a strong public narrative told people they were already too late on AI if they were not automating every single part of life and managing 26 agents. The feeling of being left behind was maybe stronger three or four months ago, or six months ago, than it is now.
Every conversation with every leader and every manager at all of the big labs, and at every company, lands in the same place: we are early. The moment is inning one, period one, or yard one, whichever sports game you pick. The future is ours to shape, and it is yours to shape. Her friend Max Mullen described the distance from beginner to expert as really short.
The short path undercuts the fear narrative. People ne
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Should I Still Give Away My Legos?
Molly Graham still says to give Legos away inside a rapid-scale company, where opportunity is flying at you and getting dumped on your head. Asked whether she has ever regretted giving a Lego away, her answer is no. Give them away. You often cannot imagine what is coming next, you cannot always design the future, and sometimes you hand off the known and step into the unknown. In every example from her own experience and from everyone she has worked with and coached over many years, the handoff has basically always been a good idea.
AI is the caveat. Some Legos should not be given away, because the robots do not deserve them and people should hold on to them. The same warning is showing up a
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Why Does the AI Job-loss Story Stop People Handing Work Over?
Molly Graham says people will not hand their work to AI while a loud story says jobs are disappearing and nothing waits on the other side. Her message was always that people give work away because the only way to make space for new opportunity is by giving work away. Two assumptions sit under it: giving work away is good, and new opportunity is waiting.
The fear story she keeps hearing in Glue Club says jobs are going away because of AI and layoffs get branded as AI. Media companies add that there is nothing on the other side, and that everyone needs universal basic income from the state because no one will have a job in 10 years. She calls the story crazy. It will not support a stance of d
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Why Is Delegating to AI Different From Handing Work to a Person?
Molly Graham says handing work to a person and handing work to AI are different jobs. With a person, the best move is to fully hand over work you have been building and then trust that the future of it belongs to them. Her image is to chuck the pieces at them and run. The instinct is to stay so they build it exactly as you did. Letting go of that control brings fear and a lot of freedom.
A machine does not take the oversight with it. Delegating to AI is closer to assigning work on a team while you still own the final product. The tools can do parts of the job, and the mental tax stays with you. The cost of oversight is not zero, so there is less room to move on to new things. She wonders wh
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What Is a Reverse Centaur?
Molly Graham says Cory Doctorow's centaur is a human head in charge of an animal body, and a reverse centaur is an animal head in charge of a human body. People want AI they control: they stay in charge, and the AI does their bidding. The reverse centaur is the arrangement to fear, because the AI uses the person.
DoorDash people and Uber people already live in the reverse-centaur world, and it is not the funnest life. The same pattern might expand to knowledge work, which matches a lot of people's fears. Humans would still be very valuable, but they would be controlling agents while AI tells them where to build and what to do, and then the AI does the thing.
The split is about who gives th
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Why Do Engineers Grieve Losing Hands-on Work?
Molly Graham thinks engineers grieve losing hands-on work because engineering has totally changed, probably one of the most visceral areas where jobs have genuinely transformed, and the grief is really real.
An engineer who had been at a company for a couple of years was no longer enjoying the role as much after a huge amount of change. The company had grown into a more structured environment, he was no longer sure what the current job was, and he missed engineering being more hands-on. Tara from OpenAI described the old job as rowing and the new job as steering. A lot of people want to row and do not want to steer. It can be hard to separate liking the rowing from fear that rowing is the o
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Why Does Fast Growth Mean Making Yourself Irrelevant?
Molly Graham says the main job in rapid growth and change is to make yourself irrelevant, because that is the only way to be ready for whatever comes next. The second line is don't worry, it is all going to be okay. Those two sentences are her summary of the whole piece.
Somebody once said the writing was too long and asked for one sentence. The answer came back as two. She treats the writing and the speeches as a giant hug. Work can feel chaotic, overwhelming, and stressful, and opportunity sits on the other side. Change is scary and hard, and it does not mean the world is ending. Everybody needs to hear that it is going to be okay.
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What Does Give Away Your Legos Mean?
Molly Graham's phrase give away your Legos means handing the work you built an identity around to someone else, then going on to something new. Rapid growth makes that handoff scary. You become the person who owns the blog, a part of the stack, or a product, and then a manager says to pass that work on.
The advice began as a little talk for people who worked for her at Google and Facebook. Google was already about 10,000 employees when she joined in 2007, and her department grew from 25 people to 125 in nine months. Facebook had 500 employees and 80 million users, and was smaller than MySpace, when she joined. She left five years later, when Facebook had 5,500 employees and over a billion u