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What Is Glue Club for Lonely Leaders?

Molly Graham gets a lot of wisdom and a lot of support for conversations about loneliness from the community at Glue Club. A leader who feels lonely and a little unsupported should find a community, Glue Club or another one, and talk there. Leaning on each other is how people learn what is real and what is not, and what is valuable and what is not.

Much of the work in Glue Club is asking whether anybody else is seeing the same thing, and that check is really valuable. The same conversation can happen in Lenny land. The point is to get out and talk about what is real and what is not instead of staying in a sad, lonely hole.

Plenty of space exists right now for what to do, which skills to get, which course to take, which tools to try next, and who is hot today. The human side, and what it feels like to go through the change, gets far less room. The hope is that people leave feeling a little more sane, because everybody else is feeling a little crazy right now too, lots of people are grieving, and feeling that way is normal.

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The grief, loneliness, and burnout sweeping through the tech industry right now | Molly Graham ·

Lenny's Podcast: Product | Career | Growth

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  2. Why Does Fast Growth Mean Making Yourself Irrelevant?Molly Graham says the main job in rapid growth and change is to make yourself irrelevant, because that is the only way to be ready for whatever comes next.
  3. Why Do Engineers Grieve Losing Hands-on Work?Molly Graham thinks engineers grieve losing hands-on work because engineering has totally changed, probably one of the most visceral areas where jobs have…
  4. Why Do People Feel Lonely When AI Replaces the Team?Molly Graham says the loneliness shows up when the teammates go away and the day is spent with machines.
  5. What Is a Reverse Centaur?Molly Graham says Cory Doctorow's centaur is a human head in charge of an animal body, and a reverse centaur is an animal head in charge of a human body.
  6. Why Is Burnout Rising in Tech Right Now?Lenny Rachitsky says 44% of people in his tech survey felt burned out in 2025, and 55% said they feel burned out this year. He calls that a huge jump.
  7. Why Is Delegating to AI Different From Handing Work to a Person?Molly Graham says handing work to a person and handing work to AI are different jobs.
  8. Why Does the AI Job-loss Story Stop People Handing Work Over?Molly Graham says people will not hand their work to AI while a loud story says jobs are disappearing and nothing waits on the other side.
  9. Should I Still Give Away My Legos?Molly Graham still says to give Legos away inside a rapid-scale company, where opportunity is flying at you and getting dumped on your head.
  10. Why Throw a Funeral for Work You Loved?Molly Graham says sometimes you need to throw a funeral for work you loved, because the funeral is there for a reason.
  11. Why Did People Feel Too Late on AI?Molly Graham says a strong public narrative told people they were already too late on AI if they were not automating every single part of life and managing 26…
  12. Why Do Some AI Products Disappear Within a Year?Molly Graham says some of what gets shipped now may last six or twelve months and then disappear or stop mattering.
  13. How Should Leaders Talk About Grief at Work?Molly Graham says leaders should say the grief out loud.
  14. What Increases Happiness at Work the Most?Lenny Rachitsky says the strongest lever for happiness at work is the manager.
  15. What Does It Feel Like Inside a Rapidly Growing Company?Molly Graham says being inside a rapidly growing company feels like being inside a tornado.
  16. Should I Treat AI Like an Intern?Lenny Rachitsky says the core test is to treat AI like an intern: decide what a person would give an intern and what they would never give them.

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