How Does Barbara Coloroso Get Children to Bed Without Threats?

On The Knowledge Project, Barbara Coloroso, author of Kids Are Worth It!, tells Shane Parrish that routines matter more than threats, and that by eight or ten a child should already be inside one. She does not mean a brick-wall rule that lights go out at 8:00 no matter what. With her own three children, born within three and a half years, she and her husband took turns. One did the dishes while the other stayed, humming, naming something from the day they were grateful for, and reading a story. Make bedtime pleasant, she says. Rubbing a child's feet or back can settle them. "Did you brush your teeth?" is a silly question. Brush alongside them and model it.