What's Laura Markham's Rule for Uncomfortable Feelings?

Dr. Laura Markham tells Shane Parrish that people mishandle emotion when it makes them uncomfortable. In her example, a partner rushed to solve a problem when the other person only needed the feeling allowed. Her rule, for a child or an adult, is to accept the feeling as it is, remember it may not last, and love the person with that inconvenient emotion included. She connects this to the house. Raised voices push children's blood pressure and adrenaline up, including babies and including sleeping babies, and constant conflict makes children more anxious and harder to live with. A child can watch a conflict if the adults then repair it. The home should not be one long argument.